I have a confession...
"My name is A.Marie and I have been dating myself for quite some time now. I know, I know! It's oh so wrong, but I love it so much! I can't get enough of myself."
What do you think about what you just read? Conceited, self-involved, crazy, lonely? You're entitled to an opinion, but admitting my confession has given me so much liberation! I believe everyone should experience this feeling, at least at some point in their lives.
MY LOGIC?Who knows what you like better than YOU?
If someone else knows you better than you know yourself, then you're in big trouble! Often times, people might believe that taking the time to spoil yourself is selfish or conceited. But, who cares? It's not my fault that whatever my girl wants, she gets! (And by "my girl", I mean myself.) In all actuality, that's what every woman wants, right? For a MAN to provide it all, and spoil her rotten? Ha! While you sit around and wait for that to happen, I'll be "wining and dining" my own person. When I'm not doing that, I wouldn't mind a little quality time with the girls either. Sometimes a cliche brunch is just what you may need to get your mind off of being single, or being obligated to a significant other. Find your happy zone!
Don't get me wrong, there are men willing to provide a woman with such privileges. However, you should think about this: I happen to know exactly when I want something, as simple as a cup of ice cream or a spur-of-the-moment iced coffee...a better guess than what any significant other can possibly know. I'm just saying, treat yourself once in a while! Who knows, you might enjoy the solitude. Being alone is NOT the same as being lonely. If you find that being alone makes you feel lonely, then perhaps you have more exploring to do. What do you like to do? Where would you like to go? No distracting whispers, groping hands, conflicts of opinion, or refusal to see that "chick flick".
**Here's a little secret! He comes second. Because without your kind, there would be no him. No unit. No mutual relationship, or whatever you've got going on.
How do you DATE yourself?
Here are 10 TIPS that I personally came up with:
Here are 10 TIPS that I personally came up with:
1. Wake up. Give yourself a compliment when you first look in the mirror.
2. Treat yourself to a nice, hearty meal. Whether it's by cooking, or visiting your favorite restaurant.
3. Pick something to wear for the day that makes you feel sexy and trendy.
4. Take time to do your make-up. Create a new & refreshing look that you can fall in love with.
5. Think of things that make you laugh or smile, repeatedly. Enjoy your own ideas and thoughts.
6. Plan something nice for yourself. Movie, ice cream, or shopping. Window shopping works too!
7. Listen to good music. Find something that makes you feel good to be a woman.
8. Brag about yourself! Tell others that you did something for yourself...but don't make them jealous.
9. Plan a future. Take a walk by the park or beach, and do some deep thinking. What do YOU want?
10. Talk to yourself. It's not crazy! You'll have some of the best conversations.
So, you see? Dating yourself is not unheard of. I encourage you to try it. Even if you're already dating someone else. There's no shame in that! Remember though, it's a personal journey. Make it an adventure! Add it to the top of your bucket list, and good luck!
